To be clear, I know I am incredibly blessed to be able to stay home with my kids. To all of you mommas (and dads!) out there who have to say “goodbye” to your littles each and every morning so you can go to work…my heart can’t handle that ache. You have my utmost respect. And sometimes, my envy.
By the time my youngest starts kindergarten, I will have been wearing the “stay-at-home-mom” hat for NINE years (and many of you, I know, have been rocking it for much longer.) While it is a glamorous life, no doubt, somewhere between the diapers and the laundry and the cleaning, you start to forget who you are. Or at least I do. My internal dialogue often goes something like this:
Me: This is your life. You’ve aspired to nothing.
Also Me: Congrats! At least you’ve achieved it!
Zig Ziglar once said, “If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.” I don’t necessarily “aim at nothing” but some days the bar is set pretty low: shower, brush teeth, keep kids alive.
And to be perfectly honest, every time I *get* to check that “homemaker” box, I hear the enemy whisper, “Shouldn’t you be doing something with your life? I mean, let’s face it; you’re not that great of a mom. You should be more disciplined and successful like (fill in the blank). Just think how happy you will be once your kids are in school!” Most of the time I agree with the lies. But the problem is I am looking at who I am not, instead of who I am.
What is my identity? Who gets to decide who we are, anyway? I give myself labels, or I find myself exerting all of my energy fighting, like a baby turtle trying to get out to sea in a hurricane, to find an identity, ANY identity, besides “just mom.”
But, the truth is, I have never been “just mom” – long before I ever had kids, I was already given my sole identity. You see, I met Jesus, and He gave me my full identity: Child of God. I once heard someone explain it this way: Imagine you are holding a two-sided mirror. When we look at our side of it, we just see ourselves; but when God looks at His side, He sees Jesus. God looks at us and sees Jesus. Everything else is just a role we play in this life, all the while being who He says we are:
- Chosen (John 15:16)
- Holy (Hebrews 10:10)
- Righteous (2 Corinthians 5:21)
- Dearly Loved by God (Ephesians 5:1)
- Co-heirs with Christ (Romans 8:17)
- Healed (1 Peter 2:24)
- Redeemed (Ephesians 1:7)
- Forgiven (1 John 1:9)
- Free (Galatians 5:1)
We need to see our lives, where we currently are, as a calling, not an inconvenience. We’re not simply treading water until we get to the next chapter, entitled Real Life. This is real life! Every moment that we breathe is a chance to be who we have been designed to be: chosen, holy, righteous, dearly loved by God, co-heirs with Christ, healed, redeemed, forgiven, free…and so many other things!
So regardless of the hat you wear – live it, love it, rock it, embrace it – and don’t take life too seriously; no one gets out alive anyway! And above all, in whatever you do, do it fully and completely to the glory of God. It’s all for Him – so get over yourself.